What is loneliness really?

Loneliness, as I did my research I came to the conclusion that there are 2 kinds.
I looked into both of them and will talk about both of them in this post!

From birth on we are being who like to be around people.
We have to be taken care off and we like to be entertained.
Some people like to take care of others and some like it to be taken care of.
Same goes for entertaining, talking and what not.
Not being alone is something we are used to so we continue to have this feeling
of wanting people around us.

What happens that when we spend too much time alone is that we feel a certain,
unwanted feeling. A feeling of loneliness is what we call it(or is it just..boredom?).
This can awaken a sad and/or bored mood.
For some this is very strong and I think that goes for extroverted people.
It’s less strong for introverted people, but it’s still there even when some try to ignore it
or push it away. Are we supposed to be that way?
Wanting to be around people even when you’re introverted or don’t like people that much?
Or is it because we’re not used to being alone and so used to sharing everything with others.

So the second feeling of loneliness is the one I tend to experience,
especially on this solo trip.

“Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you,
it’s not because they enjoy solitude.
It’s because they have tried to blend into the world before,
and people continue to disappoint them.”
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper

Loneliness awakened by not being able to share your deepest thoughts, experiences
or just anything else with someone who cares, listens and understands.
Or even just someone who listens.
Sometimes I arrive in a place and I really like it, but I can’t seem to blend in with the people.
I feel uncomfortable, not at place and unwanted even.
I know it is a unhealthy feeling, which is awakened by feeling lonely.
When you experience this too you’ll probably know that it’s something that you have
from young age. You were probably misunderstood a lot, an over thinking child with a
complicated mind. I feel like this often. So when I’m somewhere I feel at home I actually
don’t want to leave.

Before going on this trip, and in the beginning, I was always seeking approval or opinions in
others by everything I did.

Always wanting to share everything, small and big. From what I ate too, for example, an
accident I had. This is the same as wanting to do everything with others otherwise you’ll feel
lonely or even that the experience wasn’t worth it.

This is such a weird way of thinking and doing things, but how to get rid of it?
Reflecting on thoughts and actions is so important and it’s how we grow.
Growing goes in steps and for me a big first step was going on this trip alone.
As I was reflecting on it more I decided to stop vlogging from here.
To learn how to be truly independent, judge free, free in choosing and judging situations.
What do we get out of sharing everything?
Nothing really..
It causes us to not truly live in the moment, enjoy our alone time, the meal you’re having
and seeing your surroundings.
We’re also letting the feeling of..feeling strong after the independent decisions
we made pass by. We have to feel it, embrace it and grow from it.

I don’t think we’re always supposed to be around people.
For that our own independent minds are too strong.
Especially always staying in the same place with the same people doesn’t seem healthy
to me at all. We’ll never learn what else is out there, we miss out on certain experiences
that make us grow as a person.
And how beautiful would it be if you get out there and bump into people that align with you
perfectly?

Go out, explore, get to know yourself and get to know others along the way!

So the song I chose with this post is:
John Lennon – Isolation

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