Life

Setting intentions is scary as hell guys..
It’s a wonderfull and powerfull thing to do, but it will mess with your head at the same time.

Why?
Because you’ll have to look deep into yourself.
In that untouched and still place deep down, where the intuition comes from.
Where all that is you comes from.
In that place you know what you want and that’s because there.. you know who you are. The true you.
In that place there’s no ego attached, it has not been touched by outer influences and (self-destructive) thought.

We all have that place, but for some it’s harder to reach than others.
It has to do with how unconsciouss one is living. The state of mind..
If you are reading this right now that means you’re closer than others, because you KNOW and you’re willing to get there.
We are on the same level, you and I.

You might wonder now why it’s so scary.. well for me it is.
Setting intentions means ADMITTING what you want and where you want to be.
This.. this will require lots of trust in things to unfold and lots of patience.
You might be at a point in life when none of the things you want are in sight yet.
I’ve been there and I let myself lose my mind over it.
My wants and needs at that time came from a place of lack and there wasn’t any trust involved.
Not in myself, not in the universe.
My job at that time was soul draining, energy and time consuming and just overall very negative.
It was a mindless job so my mind often wandered to that place where I wanted to be, way too often.
Overthinking leaves space for the egoic mind to interfere and that’s something we don’t want!
It will make things messy in there, I promise you that.

Lets make a jump to the present moment where I’m writing this after I’ve just set my intentions!
The trust in myself, the universe and with that trusting that things WILL unfold for me has grown big time and I want to share with you how I got there!
And also how I reach out to that untouched place deep down to find stillness before I sit down to write.
Know that over time it will become so much easier, because you’ll start to live more according to your intuition and it won’t feel like a ‘task’ to find this place within yourself.

-Allow yourself to do nothing when you don’t know what you want or where you want to go with your life. It’s totally fine! Don’t overwhelm yourself, because that will only give you stress and anxiety. Use this ‘in between part’ (as my friend likes to call it) to find more depth.
Read, connect with like minded people, explore, reflect, meditate, do yoga or a different form of exercise.. grow!

-Accept where you are right now and know that where you are is where you’re supposed to be at this moment.
Look at it with different eyes, a bigger perspective and see that there’s reason behind everyting.
Look at what you’ve gained out of it.
Maybe you gained knowledge, met nice people, learned to have patience, build more self confidence, learned social skills, learned to work hard, learned to have trust in someone or a certain process.. maybe you were(or are) deep down in a dark place and thanks to that you started to appreciate the small things more. It made you realize that a shift in your state of mind is necessary and that’s what you are working towards

-Know that everything is in your own power and you have the capacity to change it!
No you didn’t choose the family you were born in and the city you grew up in, but it’s all up to you to stay or leave. To go with what society has thought you or to follow your own intuition.
Everything in your life right now is something you’ve welcomed into it yourself, consciously or unconsciously.
”where attention goes energy flows”.
What you think or talk about and focus your attention on(negative things or positive things!) is what you will attract one way or another so be carefull with where you focus your attention on.
Us humans tend to blaim outer factors for the things happening to us.
Other people, your job, a disability you might have, the government and so on.
We express it as anger, resentment, jealousy, frustration, sadness etc etc.
You might not notice you’re doing this, because most of us grew up thinking it’s normal.
Probaply most of the people around you are living their lives like that and it’s been influencing you all your life.
Little example: I always felt uncomfortable and a nasty person when engaging in gossip, but it seemed like it was normal to talk about others. Friends were doing it and also grown ups.
I should’ve listened to my intuiton! What others do or look like is not something we should shift our attention to and we gain literally nothing from it. The only reason why people gossip is to feel better about themselves, but this all happens from an unconscious state of mind.

-Find stillness to set your intentions.
Maybe you feel most calm and ’empty’ straight after you wake up, like I do.
At that moment nobody has spoken to you yet, you haven’t checked your phone, no outer influences at all! But maybe you feel most calm when the day came to an end and the stillness of the night is comforting you.
No matter the time of day, sit or lie down and meditate for as long as you desire.
Let all thoughts just pass as if you’re watching them instead of thinking them.
Allow yourself this time and don’t rush it.
From this place of stillness you’ll only feel the power of your true inner source and you’ll hear your intuition oh so clearly.
I won’t lie and say that meditation is easy at first, but after a few times you will notice change in the process. It will become enjoyable!

All you gotta do now is find a comfortable and calm place to sit with your notebook and a pen.
Start writing without putting too much thought into it, write down what you feel from within.
I like to put on some flowy background music(for example: Nick Cave, The national, Oh wonder, The temper trap..), but don’t do that if it’s distracting.

While writing this I constantly told myself to keep it light and not too long.
I think I kinda managed, but as always.. there’s still so much more to this topic!
That leaves space for conversation, jeej!

I have a question for you guys:
are our intentions like a wish which you don’t tell others about otherwise it won’t come true or.. is it really a good thing to tell others?
Personally I wouldn’t feel comfortable when someone read mine and I don’t know why that is.. it just feels really personal.

Leave your thoughts and comments down below or maybe connect through instagram <3

Do you often find yourself judging one in your mind or
even out loud the first time you see that person?
I did and I sometimes still do, but it’s something I really
don’t want and feel bad about. I thought myself something
to do instead and it really helps! But first we have to be
aware of the fact that we’re judging or talking about someone.
Sometimes we do it without actually thinking, it’s melted into our system.

For most people it isn’t in their own behavior to judge people,
but it’s thought by their surroundings.
Your friends or family judges someone out loud and you join them.
Most probably you’re feeling bad about it, I did(and do)..

There is so much more to a person then what you see in
them and think of them.
Even to a person from which you think you know all of.
Take a person close to you, like a friend, for example.
Is he/she how you thought he/she was when you first met each other?
And did he/she remained completely the same over the time you two
have known each other? Big chance the answer is no.

Even when the person itself doesn’t know there is more to him, there is..
We all need something to realize it again and again that we can accomplish things,
that we are meaningful, that we have a purpose and that there are others who care
about us. That something could be a person, a certain event,
written words or maybe even an animal close to you..

The way someone appears to others is the way society made that person.
When you grow up in fear, you will stay fearful.
When you grow up in a loving environment, you will love others and probably yourself.
It takes time for a person to change a certain mindset,
lots of time in a different environment than what they grew up in.

The thing I do now when I catch myself judging someone is,
when this judging is negative, I start summing up things(in my mind)
I find beautiful in that person or what I respect about a certain behavior and so on.
That way you see someone in a whole other light and you open yourself up to things
maybe unknown or weird for you.

Try it, you will find yourself wanting to learn more about people you don’t even know.
I found out everyone has something to learn another, the same counts for ourselves!
We should all start being busy with our own life, our own mind, our own growth and
stop being busy with someone else’s. It’s so unnecessary and leads to a wrong mindset.

Here it is! The song I chose fitting this topic:
Billy Joel – My life
I didn’t knew the song before, but it’s so happy and
true. Listen and enjoy 🙂